
1friend:
1 a : one attached to another by affection or esteem
2 a : one that is of the same nation, party, or group
3 : a favored companion
-From Merriam-Webster
I may be preaching to the choir here, but often I find myself reading about the validity of online-relationships and how they are not seen as “real” relationships. For many, any relationships not fixed in the face-to-face realm does not count as a deeply emotional friendship.
How many of you can agree with this assessment?
I don''t.
Allow me to place it in this context. Think of your job or school. Each is an isolated world with its own rules and relationships. Each is different but in the end they have essentially one thing in common: people. You have people you can’t stand, others you just have ‘lunch’ with but don’t see outside of that environment, and then there are the select few you classify as friends.
A friend transcends the isolated world you meet them in and are welcomed to join your other ‘worlds.’
This applies to WoW as well. It may be a game, but underneath the pixels, WoW is a complex and intensely interactive chat room. Humanity is abundant there and so are our personalities. Just because your avatar is made up of ones and zeros, doesn’t mean your emotions are and you WILL respond to others in varying degrees.
Allow us to examine the definition of “Friend” and think about your own pals on WoW; I will think of mine:
- one attached to another by affection or esteem-Check
- one that is of the same nation, party, or group-Guild, check
- a favored companion-Check
Now think about that ‘friend’. Do they transcend your sphere (aka WoW) and are welcomed into your other ‘worlds?’
I know mine are.
But Bre, what do you mean by transcendence?
Okay ask yourself these questions.
Do they know very personal details about you, know your first name, have contact information such as email and phone numbers? Have you meet some of them outside of the game?
If you answered yes, then this is transcendence.
It also is a real friendship. There is a real commitment and responsibility to these people, just as there would be if they lived next door to you.
I have been asked why I spend so much time on something where I never seem to accomplish anything. They say, “It isn’t like you can take those pixels with you?” Then precede to chuckle.
I just wait until the laughter dies down and I say, “No, can’t take the pixels with me, but I can take my friends when I leave.”
And that is what all of this is about.
Friends.
My fleshy epics.
Ps: Regina Lynn, from Wired, has a great commentary about this subject. Which she had done much more eloquently than I have. Go and read it!